The Assignment You've Been Sitting On

There is a particular feeling that can surface when you see someone else doing the thing you once said you were going to do.

It is not always jealousy. Sometimes it is admiration. Sometimes it is inspiration. Yet underneath those feelings, there can be a quieter awareness. The idea they are bringing to life looks remarkably similar to the one that has been sitting in your notebook, tucked away in a folder on your laptop, or waiting patiently in the back of your mind.

Many entrepreneurs have an assignment like that.

The Assignment That Has Been Waiting

For some people, the assignment is a business idea. For others, it is a framework, a service, a book, a podcast, or a creative project that never quite made it beyond the planning stage.

The challenge is that waiting can look a lot like progress. Research feels productive. Planning feels productive. Learning feels productive. At some point, though, it can be worth asking whether preparation is still moving things forward or simply making the waiting feel more comfortable.

I know this because I have my own version of this story.

The Moment That Changed My Relationship With Time

For me, the shift happened after a major surgery. While recovering in a hospital bed, I found myself thinking differently about time. I realised I had been treating my assignment as though there would always be another opportunity to start.

So I asked for my laptop and began building my website.

Looking back, what stands out is how little actually changed. I did not suddenly become more knowledgeable. I did not suddenly become more confident. The fear was still there.

What changed was my relationship with time.

Borrowed Judgment

One of the ideas I often come back to is what I call borrowed judgment. It is the habit of evaluating our decisions through the imagined opinions of people who were never meant to define them.

When I first started creating videos, I asked people around me for feedback. They cared about me, but they were not creating content and they were not the audience I was trying to reach. The more I followed their suggestions, the less I recognised myself.

Borrowed judgment does not always arrive as criticism. Sometimes it arrives as well-meaning advice that quietly pulls us away from our own voice.

The Pain We See and The Cost We Don't

The discomfort of starting is easy to see. We can imagine criticism, mistakes, and comparison before any of them happen.

The cost of waiting is harder to see. We do not see the opportunities that never develop, the people who never find us, or the impact our work may have had if it existed in the world.

The visible discomfort gets our attention. The invisible cost rarely does.

Why Movement Creates Clarity

One of the things entrepreneurship has taught me is that clarity often emerges through movement rather than before it.

This podcast has evolved several times over the years. Each version revealed something the previous version could not. Not because there was a perfect plan from the beginning, but because there was something real to respond to.

Sometimes it is difficult to refine an idea that only exists in your head. Once it enters the world, however imperfectly, it begins teaching you what comes next.

A Question Worth Sitting With

Looking back, I am not sure readiness was ever the real issue.

What changed for me was not confidence, knowledge, or fear. What changed was my relationship with time.

If you have been carrying an idea for a while, perhaps there is value in becoming curious about the story behind the delay.

Not to judge yourself.

Simply to understand what may be keeping the assignment waiting.

A Place to Begin

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About the Author: Joké Durojaiye is a Life Coach, Business Therapist™, and author of UNMUTE YOURSELF. She helps creative women entrepreneurs separate the math from the drama so they can develop the leadership, clarity, and emotional capacity required to build sustainable businesses. Learn more at jokedurojaiye.me